How to be happy in this difficult time is a nuanced recipe. Focus your energies on what is positive.
Plan ahead, but not so much that you are distracted from any joyous sense of serendipity. Keep your eye on the prize: a happy life with few regrets.
As it happens, I am a fulfilled and happy soul. I will use a series of fashion photos as metaphors and reminders.
How to be happy- Rule one.
Trust your instincts and embrace your self-confidence. This gets easier with age as we hone our priorities to the ones that matter most.
One can see that my outfit is unusual. Perhaps it doesn’t even work. What matters is that you wear what you love, and you set your own rules and boundaries for what your preferences are.
If this outfit doesn’t work, it is okay. Acknowledge that is acceptable to make a mistake. Oops, this is not my best look!
Know the direction that you want to go.
Aim high to be your best self; not necessarily your most “liked” self.
Here, of course, I refer to social media, and Instagram in particular.
Eye on the prize – a happy and fulfilled life.
How many things do we take for granted in a single hour? Countless things. A roof, comfortable shelter, a soft bed, a commodious sofa. We take for granted a long hot shower scented with an infinite amount of fragrance. L’OCCINTANE’s Verveine Verbena is my favorite, btw!
Taken for granted are the sumptuous luxurious of dining out.
Being able to sit at a table with an abundant number of options and being served your choice. Steak, veal or lamb? Vegan, Paleo, pescatarian? Gluten free? Tap or bottled water, still or bubbly. Wine, champagne, diet coke? Ok, I believe you get my message.
Fashion is abundant and the choices of what we wear is also too numerous almost to visualize. We can literally tap at a metal envelope and have any time we choose flown to us within 24 hours.
Still all of these choices make us confused. More choices do not lead to more fulfillment . The opposite is true. Many don’t go out to local shops and communicate with neighbors. We can beware of this trend, and try to change it.
Lets live IRL, and smile as we walk. Visit and patronize your local shops. Also, eye contact is great, but a bit of a taboo in Manhattan. I do it anyway!
When considering how to be happy, please be open to opportunities to engage with others. Speak to an elderly person on the street. It may be the only conversation they will have.
Share time with friends. Dare to be silly !
Give back a bit by shopping for items from charity stores. I was at Housing Works yesterday and met a lovely woman who sported this incredible stack bracelets and watches.
Some definite Cartier going on, but that is not where the shine is. The shine is always the expression of creativity. While she was totally unpretentious in manner, I will share her fabulous and creative stack. Note the rubber bracelet too.
I am all for piling it on as you know!
Appreciate the abundance of fresh and organic fruit.
Stop to appreciate the flowers, sunshine and moonlight. Even the rain is magical.
BE PRESENT IN THE MOMENT!
Notice what is around you. Be ready to laugh!
Appreciate the light and shadow of water on a long summer day.
Natural objects are free! Take in the sight of them and enjoy the marvel of nature.
Speak up when it is important.
Wake up and smell the coffee! Also add fresh cinnamon .
Be inclusive. Share time with others who have different views. Lets choose not be so divided.
Dance in the streets!
Don’t fear getting older. Instead, embrace the milestones that age represents.
Dare to sparkle ! Shine bright at any age.
Consider your actions and the consequences they may have for our neighbors and children. You do not want to regret your actions as time marches on. Read this post on recycling!
Support local artisans and enjoy the personal touch of the hand-made craft of a talented person.
Artful and natural beauty is everywhere we look. Drink it in.
Beautiful things are within everyone’s budget, when you shop second hand! Enjoy the things you own.
Below my three dollar bag!
Bubbly pink clutch purchased for $5.00!
Be playful and unpredictable !
You are more than the image in your mirror !
When things get difficult , don’t turn your back.
If you find yourself being too busy to spend time with friends and family, then STOP!
Don’t forget your spiritual side.
The game of life is full of twists and turns. Bring your A game by being kind !
Nothing feels better than practicing kindness and getting a sincere smile in return!
This is my own guide of how to be happy, and likely it is different than yours.
So please share your happiness secrets !
—— XOXO, Elle ——